This week I’ve been in Edinburgh for Friend C’s hen do. Here’s a quick run-down of our ‘weekend’ in the middle of the week:
Travelled by train from London King’s Cross to Edinburgh Waverley Station. Got in the taxi to…
Yeah, I know, big news eh? The expense of weddings is something which bothers me and that perhaps I think about too much. In order to understand my obsession about costs, you might like to know a little more about me.
As a kid, my parents taught me to be frugal. When they were first married and when I was very small my dad’s income was fairly pitiful but they always managed by being canny budgeteers. They passed this onto me from an early age. If there was something in particular I wanted, I’d save up my pocket money for a few weeks in order to be able to afford it. For more expensive items and school trips, I would have a chart attached to the fridge door, each £1 to be crossed off when I finished my chores. I wasn’t just given the cash; I had to earn it.
Call me unromantic, but I don’t really adhere to the whole “Love at first sight” or “soul mates” malarky. The concept that there is only one person who is our one true love, and we’ll know them the moment we see them is, as far as I’m concerned, a load of sentimental bullshit.
Please please please watch this video – it’s just perfect!
Ever since I was a tiny child, I can always remember having a thing for ‘proper’ picnic hampers. The ones that you’d see in old films where a couple walks up a hill, her summery dress blowing in the breeze, and they eat a beautifully extravagant picnic, carried in their gorgeous wicker hamper complete (of course) with a delicious vintage wine.
I have been using my own method of collecting inspiration photos – by using Microsoft OneNote and making my own note of the sources. Loads of people have asked me whether I’ve joined Pinterest to help with the wedding planning. For a while I had absolutely no bloody clue what people meant! However, after a little research I can understand why it’s a useful tool. Being able to store all of your inspiration photos in one place is a great plan and having the source automatically updated makes loads of sense because let’s face it, how many times have we all found something online and then had no clue where it was from?
So I requested a Pinterest invitation, and have joined up. I filled in all my details, clicked on some things I was interested in…and then panicked.
There were immediately tons of photos on the screen. I had no clue where they came from and apparently I’m now following a whole load of people whom the Pinterest gods believe I must be interested in. Eek! After becoming overwhelmed with the colour and sensory input, I immediately closed the page. I just couldn’t handle it.
I’ve since braved another peek at it and I’m actually a big fan! With a ‘Pin It’ button on my toolbar, I can immediately capture a photo which takes my fancy, without having to faff around. I’ve got this feeling that I’m going to become a little obsessed…
Do you use Pinterest, or some other computer wizardry to help with your wedding planning? What’s your advice to a Pinterest newbie like myself – is it worth trying to stick with? And just in case you’re interested in what I’m pinning, my username is clumsylawyer 🙂
I realise that I already published this post. I did some fiddling around to spread my blogging out a little, so if you’ve already read this one sorry about that – there’ll be some new content tomorrow, I promise!
Although my mum asks me about my hair, makeup and jewellery for my wedding day, it’s not something I’ve ever really thought about. Sure I’d like to look beautiful, but I don’t have any kind of ‘vision’ behind my look.
One thing I have been considering is whether or not to wear my charm bracelet on my wedding day. It was given to me as a christening gift, and I have collected various charms but they have never been soldered onto the bracelet, and it has never been worn. I would love to wear it, but worry about whether it would be too childish for my wedding day. The thing is, if I don’t wear it then I don’t know if I ever will and I adore my bracelet.
There is currently a lot of discussion in the UK about gay marriage. In 2004, an Act of Parliament was passed which brought Civil Partnerships into existence, allowing same-sex couples to join as civil partners. Essentially same-sex couples were given the same rights as married couples, with a few differences, including:
The government is now undergoing the consultation process to extend marriage to same-sex couples. I am absolutely for this, but the proposals are still flawed. Civil partnerships would be retained, but civil marriages added. There is no proposal to permit same-sex ceremonies to include religious content.
Disclaimer: What follows are my own thoughts and feelings about the proposals put forward for gay marriage. I do not intend to cause anyone offence with what I say, and if I do I apologise. I would really welcome some discussion on this topic, so if you have strong feelings (either way) please comment!
As well as my grown-up bridesmaids, I am asking two little girls to be in my wedding party. One is A Man’s youngest cousin P. She’s approaching 5 years old and will be almost 6 on the wedding day. The other is my friend’s little girl B. She’ll only be 2 and a half on the big day, so it’ll be interesting to see how it pans out. It won’t matter if one or both of them end up refusing to go down the aisle – at least they’ll look lovely on the day!
B probably won’t really understand what’s going on, and almost certainly won’t remember it afterwards. P on the other hand would probably like to know more about it and so I was trying to come up with a good way to tell her all about it. I’ve seen a lot of brides online who have made up activity packs for their younger guests and so the idea came to me of making a kind of story book with pictures for P to colour in. I’ll also make one for B while I’m at it, even if she won’t understand!
Choosing bridesmaids can cause some brides-to-be a lot of grief. Sisters, school friends, cousins, future sisters-in-law, university friends, the girl for whom you were a bridesmaid 5 years ago, the list can go on and on and on. Who to choose can turn into a question of how many is too many and particularly in America, you can end up with enormous bridal parties.